Dealing With Conflict

PattyGordonPlease welcome author Patricia Kiyono.

Thank you, Rue, for giving me the opportunity to meet your readers! I’m from the west side of the Mitten state, close to Lake Michigan. I’ve lived all but five years of my life here (my parents and I moved here from Japan when I was one, and I spent four years in Illinois getting my undergraduate degree) so I can’t imagine living anywhere else. My husband and I have five children, nine grandchildren and will soon celebrate the arrival of our first great-grandchild. And so far, all of them continue to live nearby.

Aside from the occasional monster snowstorm, I love living in Michigan. We have all four seasons, and we’re always close to a body of water if we want to go to the beach. If we’re in the mood for culture, we’re less than twenty minutes away from the major venues in Grand Rapids, but if it’s open space we want, that’s not far away either.

It’s not that I never want to leave here – I love traveling, especially now that the children have grown. Since retiring in 2005, I’ve been to Japan, Greece, France, England, and Mexico. But this is home, especially since most of my immediate family is here. That’s why my husband I felt our world start to crumble a bit when this past spring our youngest daughter announced her plan to move to southern California and pursue a career in screenwriting.

As parents, we want our children to soar. We want them to rise to heights we’d only imagined, and we want them to be happy in what they choose to do. But to have her move across the country? To not be able to hug her for months or years at a time? To not be able to come to her aid whenever she needed it? The thought was terrifying, yet we knew we couldn’t do anything to stop her from reaching for her dreams. After all, she’s twenty-six years old, a college graduate, and has put away a nice nest egg in the time she’s worked as a technical writer.

So I did the next best thing—I put her in a story. I wrote about a young lady who longs to leave her small town and make her mark in Hollywood. And since I wanted to write a Christmas book, I had her work with the local children on a Christmas pageant. The result was Christmas Wishes, my newest release from EsKape Press.

As for our daughter, her plans have changed slightly. She’s still here in west Michigan, but she’s still considering other options. But for now we still have our baby here, where we can keep an eye on her.

 Please leave a comment and share how you deal with your own inner conflicts. Do you work hard to change things to suit you? Do you ignore them and hope they go away? Or do you put your energy into something else?

About Christmas Wishes by Patricia Kiyono:ChristmasWishes 500x750 (1)

Mitch Carson is tired of the big city. In his former life, he’d been a news photographer in Chicago, where the dangers are endless. But now, he just wants to settle down in this quiet town with his daughter, Angie. Here, his only fear is losing his daughter to his scheming mother-in-law.

Sophie Gardner wants to be a screenwriter. She’s ready to leave small town Zutphen, Michigan and go to Hollywood. With a theater degree under her belt, she’s busy writing scripts while helping out her sister Joanie, who’s bedridden with a difficult pregnancy. Unfortunately, Joanie has somehow coerced Sophie into directing the Christmas pageant at Zutphen Community Church.

When Sophie and Mitch meet, the attraction is instant and mutual. But each wants what the other is trying to get away from. Can they deny their feelings and pursue their dreams? Or will the holiday prove to them that their true wishes might not be what they’d thought?

Buy links: Christmas Wishes can be purchased at Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and other ebook outlets.

 Author links: Patricia Kiyono can be found at her website, blog, facebook, and twitter @PatriciaKiyono


13 thoughts on “Dealing With Conflict

  1. Patty, I experienced the same thing when my son decided to move from Michigan to Phoenix. Very hard. But we tell our kids they can be anything they want to be so how can we tell them they must live close?

  2. What a fun way of handling frustration. I love to write out my frustration too. There are so many different opportunities happening in Michigan now. I wish you and her all the best!

  3. Great post, Patricia! I’m the type to ignore conflict, both inner and outer, in hopes that it goes away. But I’m working on that tendency–especially since an editor gave me some feedback about conflict in the book I just finished. No more wishy-washy Kristen. Have to start tackling it head-on! Also, almost done with Christmas Wishes, and I’m loving it! 🙂

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